Impact of bad habits
There are some bad habits for which even your good friends and family will not put up with you. For this reason, you should pay attention to whether you have any of these bad habits. If so, you will want to apologize and stop. You may even be able to get some of your family members and friends to help you get rid of your bad habits.
- Gossip: If you gossip with a friend, the friend you are talking with will assume that you gossip about him with your other friends. Most people don’t have secrets, so they will tell the friend you are gossiping about. This doesn’t convey a good image of you. If you find yourself talking negatively about others, train yourself to say nice things instead until you don’t talk about people at all when they are not around.
- Not taking time for friends: We all feel swamped in our lives, but if you do not take time for your friends, you will lose them. People move on relatively quickly. Say no to more than three invitations, and they will probably stop asking. Set time with friends as a priority in your calendar. You don’t have to do it every day or even every week, but enough that you still feel a close bond with that person.
- Holding on to toxic relationships: Sometimes, we maintain bad friendships even out of habit. If you have someone in your life who makes you feel bad and doesn’t lift you or others, let them go.
- If you are an introvert or just shy, it can be challenging to make the contacts you need in your life. If you find that you are not spending time with friends who are important to you and have not done so for a long time, try to initiate the contact you crave to rekindle those friendships. If you care about your friends, take the time to show them. Send them fun items you think they will like, Groupon deals you know they will want to take advantage of, and cards for their special days.
- Being negative: The truth is that some of us are inherently more negative than others. The problem is that negativity is a big turn-off for most of us, and it is not fun to be around people with a negative vibe. Even negative people don’t like being around other negative people. Try to change your thoughts to positive ones, or focus on the positive if you can. Stop expressing negativity unless it is imperative.
- Not being open and vulnerable: To feel the love from your friends and be able to return love to your friends, you need to be honest and vulnerable to them. The only way to do this is to focus on spending time with your friends more often so that you can really get to know each other.
- Being inconsistent: If you decide to improve your friendships, don’t start and then stop. This is especially true if you have been a bad friend lately. Pick up your plan and set aside times when you can focus on your friends.
If you can turn this around, you will become better at maintaining long-term friendships.
There is nothing better than making new friends and keeping them with you for a long time. If you’ve ever wondered why you can’t make good friends, check yourself to see if you have any of these bad habits that affect friendships.
Your bad habits can also have a detrimental effect on you and your whole family. This is especially true if you have children. Children learn most of their bad habits from their parents. If you are a parent or influence children, you should do everything you can to replace your bad habits with good ones.
- Bad ways to deal with stressful events. How you respond to stress in your life is usually a habit by the time you are an adult. If you didn’t learn how to deal with stress as a child, you are likely to repeat what you learned from the adults around you. If you know you mismanage stress, learn good ways to handle it so you don’t pass it on to your children.
- Impulse spending. If you have seen your mother or father impulsively spending money on unnecessary purchases, you are likely to do the same unless you recognize it and put a stop to it. You can cause a lot of financial problems by misspending money.
- Bad ideas about money. Besides, in general, you can pass bad ideas about money on to children. If you are afraid of money because you don’t have enough or fearful that you won’t have enough, you can make some awful decisions that will negatively affect you and your family.
- Compulsive worrying. If you are constantly worrying about things you can’t change, it will also have a negative impact on your children. They see that their parents, the person they rely on most to protect them, are worried about everything. This makes them feel insecure, and sometimes they misbehave. If you want to stop worrying, you may need to seek professional help – especially if these fears are also hereditary.
- Being a picky eater. Some picky eaters have a reason for being the way they are, such as being on the autistic spectrum and having texture issues with their food, but others just copy the way their parents eat. If you are a picky eater, you can be picky without showing it to the kids. Also, don’t force your family to miss out on meals they love because of your problem.
- Not expressing yourself. You teach people how to treat you, and if you never express your thoughts, ideas, and feelings about a situation, no one will know how you feel. Then you can feel badly treated and act accordingly, causing a rift in the relationship.
- Poor communication skills. Your inability to express yourself may partly have to do with poor communication skills. Some people get very nervous talking to other people (even their family) about their problems. So they keep it to themselves. This is not a good idea. Instead, learn to be open and positive with your family.
- Inability to maintain good relationships. If you can’t communicate, worry too much, and don’t like confrontation, it can be challenging to maintain good relationships with your family. Building and maintaining good relationships can be learned by example. If you show your children that you have lunch alone with your best friend once a month, they will learn something from that.
- Don’t say, “I’m sorry.” You’ve heard people joke that they can’t say sorry, but that’s not a good quality for someone to have. If you are such a person, learn how to do it now. It’s straightforward. Just say what you did wrong and then say, “I’m very sorry.” No ifs, ands or buts.
- A bad diet. Diet is definitely passed on to children. Just remember that children from all over the world eat interesting foods based on what their parents eat. This proves that taste is a matter of habit. If your parents gave you a bad diet, the same will happen to your children if you don’t change it.
There is no doubt that each of these bad habits harms your family. Even worse, you risk passing on these bad habits to your children. Even spouses can pick up bad habits from each other.
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